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Positive Discipline

Are you sure it works? You bet...

Positive discipline means using methods that build up our kids' self-discipline instead of belittling them. While it's the ideal way of disciplining the kids, does it always work that way?

Many parents will raise their eye brows when told to positive discipline their kids. When a kid is at his worst temper and no one seems able to stop him from throwing his tantrum, isn't spanking the best method?

What is positive discipline? How to calm the kid by using this positive discipline method? We all wonder.

The Old Discipline Techniques

I was brought up in an Asian society and culture that believes corporal punishment is the most effective way in disciplining a misbehaving child.

No-one would question a parent spanking or caning her wrong-doing child as more or less all parents did that to their own children. You would yell at a child, hit him and insult him at home or in public. And for that instance, it worked like magic! The misbehaving child would immediately stop behaving improperly.

I was lucky to have more 'liberal' parents in the sense that they seldom disciplined their kids harshly. But as far as my memory could tell me, I had been spanked by my mom once or twice. Many people in my generation may have gotten corporal punishment from our parents.

We all hated it as a child. So...now that we are parents, we have kids that do things that may get on our nerves, what should we do?

Positive Discipline and The Parents' Role

Positive Discipline is to teach a wrong-doing kid from wrong to right, and at the same time maintain a loving, respectful relationship between the parents and the kid.

As mama and papa, we have a role to play in disciplining our kids. You may act like a policeman, a teacher, a mediator, a judge or even a preacher.

Whatever role it is, please bear in mind that our objective is to help our kids to get out of the bad situation, to teach them the right from wrong, to understand their needs, to protect them from hurting themselves, and to harmonize any tension or conflict that may have been resulted from the misbehaving.

We should not let our anger rule our head and that we discipline our kids just to release our frustration and anger.

Kids Behavioral Problems
As parents, we want to be as good as we could in understanding why our kids behave in certain ways. And we want to solve the behavioral problems as effectively as possible using positive discipline techniques.

Power Struggles With Kids
When both parents and kids can't compromise on issues, this will lead to power struggles. How should we settle this behavioral problem? Positive discipline is the key to overcome power struggles with kids.

Discipline With Love
We ought to discipline our kids when necessary. But instead of shouting at them or hitting them, there should be more loving and respectful ways in disciplining our kids.

Discipline With Humor
Humor is the best medicine...this is also true in disciplining. Let's find out how...

Positive Discipline Techniques (Part 1),
(Part 2)
What form of discipline really works? There're many. Some discipline techniques are more effective than others. Some are more beneficial to the kids and parents. Regardless which discipline technique, let it be positive discipline.